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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks all for the comments. I saw that someone wrote another post on this similar topic. I don’t know why they couldn’t have written it here. Anyway, just a backstory. I don’t have a good relationship with my mother. She has a mental illness and doesn’t help out. I’ve always dreamed of having a girl so I can have the relationship I never had with my mother. I also know that boys leave you when you get older but girls stay. I am a daughter as well and I’m always there for my father. I always dreamed of doing tea parties, my daughters hair or getting ready for prom. We are still going to try for a third and it doesn’t hurt to gender sway even if it doesn’t work. We are happy either way, but I am praying for a girl. That’s all. Hopefully you all understand. [/quote]

Honestly, your post made me cringe.  Even if you have a daughter, you don’t know that you will have a great relationship with her.   Or that your daughter will “stay.”  Or that your daughter would enjoy tea parties or having her hair done or even want to go to prom.  And your daughter shouldn’t have to somehow compensate for the fact that you had a bad relationship with your mother.  I hope you realize that your dreams about what kind of daughter you have may not come true even if you have a girl.

And the more you post, the more I wonder if you are really going to be okay if you have another boy.  I do think it’s good that you are in therapy.  I hope it helps.

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