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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks all for the comments. I saw that someone wrote another post on this similar topic. I don’t know why they couldn’t have written it here. Anyway, just a backstory. I don’t have a good relationship with my mother. She has a mental illness and doesn’t help out. I’ve always dreamed of having a girl so I can have the relationship I never had with my mother. I also know that boys leave you when you get older but girls stay. I am a daughter as well and I’m always there for my father. I always dreamed of doing tea parties, my daughters hair or getting ready for prom. We are still going to try for a third and it doesn’t hurt to gender sway even if it doesn’t work. We are happy either way, but I am praying for a girl. That’s all. Hopefully you all understand. [/quote]

You could always get fabulous daughter in laws. My MIL only has sons so I included her in my wedding dress shopping and getting ready for the big day. I make sure to facilitate visits and calls with them. I bring the kids over there all the time while DH works. I've even taken the kids on vacation with them when DH couldn't get off work. Don't lose hope if you only have boys![/quote]

Exactly, regardless of what the third ends up being, you have a good relationship with your future grandchildren by focusing on being a good MIL and grandparent. And it doesn't sound like you're in a good mindset to do that (in the future of course) - if you have boys you already "know" they'll leave you, and if you have a girl you'll put all your eggs in that basket and give up on being a active part of your adult sons' lives.

But otherwise yes I get it. Doing girl things with your girl that you did as a child is sweet and significant. Not having a girl to do those things with is different, even if the boy things are equally sweet. Just try to focus on the all that your children bring you and work on letting go of the gender based assumptions. [/quote]

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