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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parent refuses to leave her  large colonial home. She is dependent upon others for food,  repairs,  all phone calls out to doctors,  servicemen, cannot clean her house, eats only carbohydrates and wine. Generally well, but gets sick often with flu and various sinus infections.  All the neighbors she knew have moved away. 
Won't get hearing aid
Won't hire outside cleaners 
Refuses technology that would  help monitor her ....motion detectors, life alert 
necklace,  cell phone, refuses all computer use
Cannot  hear much over the phone.

What to do? Oh- hates most people.  Won't have an aide, won't socialize with any peers. [/quote]

Posters talking about "let her live out her life on her own terms!" may have forgotten the OP's description of an individual dependent on others for food, communication, and a clean place to live.

She is already requiring significant assistance; but rather than being honest about this, and either enlisting the home help she needs or moving to an AL facility, the elder is demanding her adult child provide the care.

Mom isn't living her best life like this, and she is degrading that of her child.

OP, if you're willing to provide all of this back-up for your mother, more power to you, but realize that your quality of life matters, too.[/quote]

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