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[quote=Anonymous]It’s hard to say, OP. What you describe sounds a bit too much like a power struggle. He seems to be testing you by  denying you what you’re seeking, as if it’s some kind of a game, and it sounds like he’s deliberate in his methods (i.e. planing a set amount of time you must go without hearing back from him by text, teaching you how to tolerate not getting immediate gratification, etc.)

It may be that you’re “spoiled” — that’s impossible to know without examples, and having a better understanding of the dynamic in your relationships. It also may be that your legitimate needs are being framed as spoiled behavior by your BF, and you’re internalizing it and thinking the worst about yourself.

It is important that your BF expresses his personal boundaries in the relationship, and doesn’t feel pressured to violate them in an effort to meet your demands. In that case, sure - he can choose not to text you back more than he thinks is reasonable or comfortable doing, as an example, and then the two of you could communicate in a healthy way about both of your needs, and any conflict that arises.

BUT - it sounds like he’s just setting out to teach you patience, as if you were a child, and giving you these arbitrary tests. That doesn’t sound like a healthy dynamic.

You would need to provide more information for us to truly tease out what’s going on here.[/quote]

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