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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I work with kids and agree that often the “driven” personality trait is just the outward manifestation of anxiety.  Perfectionism and fear of failure can be very motivating.[/quote]

For a while. Then you grow up, wonder why you are stressed and anxious all the time, go to therapy, realize it's because you live in constant fear that if you are not perfect or make a mistake, you are not worthy of love. Then you have to work through that, and in the process it can become very hard to motivate. Overcoming perfectionism is paralyzing. It took me over a decade. I [b]really wish I'd learned it when I was young [/b]and could have created better patterns and coping skills for myself. I really worry about all these high achieving teenagers I see, worried about their resumes and getting perfect grades in 10 APs while playing a varsity sport and two other activities and volunteer work. That might get them into a great college but it will backfire eventually.[/quote]

How could your parents have parented you differently? What would have helped? [/quote]

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