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[quote=Anonymous]I have three kids.  Oldest hated activities.  I tried lots of things, but nothing clicked.  He's grown, works full time, is such a nice man, would do anything for anyone.  I am glad that I tried things for him, but also glad to have let him be.

My second was in a very time consuming activity.  He liked it, but wasn't serious about it - which is fine.  Having fun is certainly a fine goal.  And, my third was in a very competitive activity that required 18 hours of practice a week and so much money.  By the end of middle school, due to injury, she had to leave and she is much happier in her school based activities.

I think that it was great that my two younger kids learned to work hard.  But apparently so did my oldest without activities.  I don't regret what we did and I don't think any of it was necessary.  It's sort of a privilege thing - only people who can afford it can have their kids in activities.

One thing I wills say is that because of activities, we rarely had time for family dinners.  It's ok because we found ways to connect and spend time together.  All of us have lots of common interests.  But, we don't have that daily connection that family dinner brings.  OTOH, I do feel like I introduced my kids to the idea that you have to work to find ways to enjoy your free time and I introduced them to things I hope bring them peace and satisfaction in their lives - like different religions, yoga, weight lifting, sewing, and so much more.  [/quote]

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