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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of people don't confront right away not because they aren't 99% certain what it means/what is going on, but because if the person cheating knows they have been caught they are more likely to delete evidence and/or put more effort into hiding new evidence.  The OP may not be as naive as some think, she may be clever.[/quote]
What the hell is so clever about allowing something potentially toxic to your relationship to continue?
"Oh wow she's so smart she sat back and just spied on his cyber-flirting for months without saying anything look how much evidence she has going into divorce proceedings."
Wait a minute...
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"Why didn't the bitch just confront him immediately and get him to clean his act up BEFORE shit got out of hand for months thus causing them to divorce?"
That's not clever that's dumb.
Now you on here posting a new thread about how stressed you are about the divorce and him cheating.

YOU COULD HAVE STOPPED IT AND YOU DID NOTHING STUPID!!!![/quote]

May I present gaslighting at (his) finest? Delicately seasoned with just enough vulgarity and accusation to make you forget that it doesn’t matter whether he lied to her face. He lied. He lied about the relationship. To another person. It is irrelevant the lie that he is waiting to pull out of his back pocket. It is gaslighting to try to flip the script and make OP second guess her approach and call her stupid for not asking.

He said he wasn’t married. Period. He lied. 
He said he wasn’t married. Period. He lied.
He said he wasn’t married. Period. He lied.

So if she says what is this, guarantee you that a gas lighter will say, “oh you misunderstand XYZ. Your “truth” is I correct.”

Only severely narcissistic liars speak in terms of truths and untruths, facts and alternative facts.

Trust then verify, OP. If nothing else it is a red flag.

You could simply ask him randomly, “hey do you tell anyone who asks whether you’re married?” 
He will say yes or no, or sniff out why. Remember that majority of communication isn’t verbal. It’s tone, expression, the dialogue.

Don’t let people think you’re stupid when your conscious sends an alarm signal. Respect it and figure out of the threat is real or perceived, when work on it.[/quote]

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