Reply to DH said that he’s not married on FB chat

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "DH said that he’s not married on FB chat"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I would snoop around a bit to determine whether he's testing the waters/indulging in some online flirtation or actively having an affair/seriously seeking one out.

For the former: I would sit DH down, tell him what I know and tell him that he if does not cut that S&&t out asap his life will look like this: living in an apartment, dealing with our 2 kids by himself half the time, and unlikely to ever find someone as good as me to put up with his shit. If he wants to risk everything we have--family, friends, our nest egg--then he needs to tell me now because I will not tolerate it. He has a choice, and so do I. He's either in or out. If he has issues about our marriage, I'm all for talking about it--you want more spark? tell me what to do/wear/what you miss/crave.  You want more time to your self?? let's schedule it. You want more admiration? okay, here are al the things that make you amazing...and also you do and be those things that I love about you. You just bored and stupid? GTFO.

If the latter and he's actively in affair, I would gather more evidence and start prepping to split/do the 180. The confrontation would be different: you've done this, you're moving out while I consider next steps. No emotion.

(and I say this as someone whose DH did have, in the beginning of our relationship, an inappropriate boundary with an ex. I shut that down hard. I know the difference between being friends with an ex or having female friends, which I've never had an issue with, and lying/sneaking/being dishonest about someone. I read him the riot act early on--sometimes with men you gotta lay down the law.)[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics