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[quote=Anonymous]We live in an area where everyone claims to have it all figured out and they have nothing going on like this.  their kids are perfect, their marriage is perfect but peel back the onion and you will find a real post like this.

Not everyone is perfect, not everyone needs to be perfect and not everyone wants to be perfect.  The expectations of this area are out of control and I grew up here as well and I wish we moved away long ago but we decided that it is ok to be the B student or even the C student and stayed.

We have the ADHD kid who withdrew, got addicted to substances and has been in and out of treatment and I wouldn't trade that kid for a 4.0 1600 36 act kid who goes to Stanford for free.  What they have learned, the people they have met the grit they have is unmatched and now that they are continuing in their recovery I am happy for them, they took a different path and that is ok.  It wasn't always something I approved of but thank God they weren't hurt like many others are but at this time, things are going well and once we lifted the burden of other's expectations things really started to click for our entire family.

I am not saying your child is going down the same path but perhaps a different one than you envisioned and that is ok.  Don't worry what your friends kid is doing, yes, it is difficult and it was really difficult at times but our parent support group helped us, if your kid needs therapy embrace it, join a parent support group with people who are going through the same thing not listening to your neighbors and friends who pretend to have the perfect life.

The frustration people have is because you are trying to live up to the standards of others who judge you.  we all tell our kids to end their toxic relationships yet so many of us have them ourselves and don't end them.  [/quote]

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