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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Btdt.

You clearly say we are not friends if you are in an affair. If you break up and get therapy we can be friends.

Why are you friends? You need therapy to figure that out and why you can’t create healthy boundaries.[/quote]

Wow. Morality police. [/quote]

Agree with the poster that the friend needs counseling and she should put up clear boundaries in place.
It’s not about being a moral police but rather about a good friend who is not comfortable with friends’ actions.[/quote]

+1.  Being friends doesn’t mean you have to be complicit in their behavior. Listening to her discuss behavior that OP believes is wrong and offering the friend “support” via passive or active listening is beinga bystander to abuse and makes OP comicit.

I wouldn’t do that, and I, honestly, would feel compelled to end the friendship if she chose to continue seeing the guy.

Just as you can’t make friends do what you want, friends can’t make you stay friends and support them in negative behaviors.

Sometimes the best thing a friend can do is say, “I live you. I think you’re better than this. If you want to end this behavior, I will support you.  But, if you’re determined to continue ut, I can’t support it and I can’t continue to see/be friends with you. [/quote]

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