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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ugh. This post is from Mars. I can’t relate. I don’t know anyone who wants to be their entire world for their children. [/quote]

No one wants to be the entire world to their kids. That's just your defenses kicking in. A kid's family is their foundation, from which they go out into the world. It's important to have a good foundation, for their childhoods and for building on when they leave home. I think a strong family is critical to happiness and mental health in life.[/quote]

This. I don't want my kids to be my "whole world" -- I have work and other interests and relationships. But one thing I learned from my (not great) childhood is that family is the rare opportunity for a person to have a truly accepting, loving environment. It is unlikely your child is ever going to be a part of a friend group, community, or work place, that can offer the same level of stability, unconditional love, and validation that a family can offer. People who get that from their families tend to be happier overall, more confident, and more resilient when they encounter challenges in life. Just knowing there are people in the world who will love you no matter what can make it so much easier to handle failure and difficulties.

For me, knowing I wanted to create that kind of environment for my kids led me to become a SAHM. I don't think that's the same choice everyone needs to make, but it's what I needed to do in order to make sure my kids had a good foundation. Other people might have different support systems and might find it easier to create that foundation while working. It really just depends. You can't draw conclusions like this based on whether someone works outside the home or not. The equation is always different.[/quote]

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