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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women who think, oh, I'll keep up a dinner-date platonic friendship with this guy, are so naive.   [/quote]

This.  [b]Men and women can't have close platonic friendships involving confiding very personal things to one another and one on one dates.  This never works long term.[/b]

I wouldn't mention it to your husband  but I would stop seeing this guy.  The only exception being if you are with your husband or if his wife invites you over to their house.  If you want to bring your husband on a lunch meeting or invite him and his wife to your house for dinner when your husband is there, fine.  But no more lunches with just him. Even if he says his wife will be there.  He may come up with a last minute reason for why she couldn't make it.  I bet you will see a lot less of him if your husband is always around or his wife is in charge of the entertaining. [/quote]

As a woman, I've noticed many women have lunches with a guy they see as a platonic friend. They have innocent thoughts and have no intention to take the relationship further. However, it's always the guy who initiates things and takes the relationship to another level. Many women never intended that and become shocked by the actions and behavior of the men.

This is something I struggle to understand. Why is it always, or most of the cases the men who turn platonic friendship into a sexual relationship? Is it hard for a man to be alone with a woman and not initiate anything or take things further?[/quote]

I think there are men who are capable of viewing women as peers and friends. However, they are not the cultural norm. Many American men primarily think of women in terms of their sexual value. This is why feminists are talking about when they complain about women being treated as sex objects. Many men just do not understand that women, generally, are not as inclined to view men in their lives as potential sex partners. I’m definitely generalizing here, and not saying “men are pigs” or etc, but men are just more inclined to think about women in their lives in terms of sex. [/quote]

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