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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you both agree your current school isn't good. Well, you get get offended that she agrees with you.

She doesn't like that people live where they know they don't like the school, then try to work the system to get out of their choice. I mean, that's a fair complaint. She probably should have kept her mouth shut, but I don't think you can really criticize her for that view. [/quote]

OP here. I was annoyed because she was openly rude to me. She criticized my kid's school and then told me she didn't think I should be allowed to use the lottery to try to get my kid into a better school.

You know, the only reason I even said the thing about doing the lottery again next year is because she criticized our school. I actually like a lot about our school and would not be devastated to stay, even though I recognize some of the challenges. But having another parent say, to my face, that my school is bad [b]made me feel defensive. [/b]Which is the whole reason I said "Oh, well we might try to lottery in somewhere else if we can. We've heard great things about [her IB school]." So for her to then say that using the lottery to go to another school is selfish.... it was just such a bait and switch, which was annoying coming from someone who doesn't even have kids in the school system yet. I'm generally a very positive person but I was having an off day and running into this rude, entitled person made it that much worse.[/quote]

I mean, yes, it's rude to tell someone that their kid's school isn't very good.  But I think the bolded is the real issue.  You didn't speak up and defend the school, you caved.  Because you actually agree with her -- you are, in fact, planning to try to lottery into her IB school because of your negative opinion about the school.  And so the encounter bothers you, not only because she was rude, but also because she touched a nerve.  Personally, I would avoid this woman, because she does sound rude, but you sound defensive -- you were defensive talking to her, and you're defensive now.  If you were more comfortable with your choices, comments like hers wouldn't bother you so much.  They might be rude, but they wouldn't linger so much.  [/quote]

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