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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP it's ok to be worried and sad for her.  But she needs your support not any statements of the obvious.  She knows she is overweight/obese.

Seems to me you were shocked by her weight gain, feel bad about it, and were wondering what the right thing to do it.

Ask her how she is, really listen to her.  Support her as a person and don't make it all about the weight.  [/quote]

This.  Check in with your sister, see how she's doing, support her if she indicates she would want support on anything. Do not mention weight. Do not make veiled references to family history re obesity. As another poster said, the weight may well be related to something much deeper but there is zero chance your sister is unaware of her weight or the health issues related to that. Zero.

So assume the weight is an indicator of pain, or trauma, or some sort of struggle. Assume whatever the cause/fundamental issue may be, that it is so deep and private that you need to just let your sister tell you when/if it's up for discussion.  Otherwise, just be in touch w/ her - perhaps more than you have been - if you want to be of support.

If you can't be supportive without it being about the weight then just leave her alone.[/quote]

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