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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's fine. Do the braids and beads and let them match. Some people will consider you clueless and offensive. But it's totally normal for kids to want to be twinsies. She knows she is different from her best friend but she wants to imitate her and that is normal. But please, do not explain cultural appropriation to a 4 year old.  This is a novel concept that will likely transition to a more enlightened view that, for example, kids can dress up as twins.

I sent my kid to a preschool where she was the only white kid. For her self portrait, she drew herself with blonde hair and black skin.  Identity is fragile at that age and they want to belong. No one said a word to her about it, and that was the right answer.  [/quote]

I am the white mom of a black daughter and 2 Latina daughters.  I agree with this.

I would let them have their braids and be twinsies.  It sounds delightful frankly.  It would be offensive to insist that the black girl can only wear black girl hair styles and the white girl can only wear white girl hairstyles imo.

Now, will you get some busybody means-well-but-clueless-white-Liberal-momma in your face about it?  Yep.  You just explain very matter of factly that your daughter is twinsies with her best friend (do NOT say she is black), and that you're so glad they have found each other.  If you've got your phone then pull it out and show a picture of the two girls.  Then walk away.  Some people just aren't worthy of anything more.[/quote]

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