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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster. I think there is some truth to stepfamilies exploiting the labor of stepmothers, both financially and domestically. Who’s the one buying the kids clothes and shoes? A new laptop? College tuition? It’s very difficult to not appear ungenerous if you have the money but aren’t contributing to the stepfamily. But you’re right that stepparent is an afterthought and no one cares about them anymore if divorce occurs.[/quote]

Yeah. I think about this a lot because I am dating someone with two teens. They are polite to me but that’s about it, which is fine. But I don’t see us developing a super bonded relationship. Right now I’m living with their dad and he has fifty fifty custody. When they are here, he does pretty much all the household work. They have zero chores. He does all the cooking and cleaning for them, mostly. On the day they leave, I go around and clean the house. If he doesn’t want to make them do chores, fine, but I’m not going to do them for them. Also, I know stepkids are unlikely to care for step parents in their old age. So, I feel like I should prioritize saving money for my retirement over their college educations, even if we were to get married. [/quote]

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