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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Other than cheating/affair/addiction.

Is there anything? I am finding after 2 kids and 11 years of marriage we are really 2 quite completely different people. He has never been my 'best friend' but has always been a friend with some common interests and someone I have loved. 
However, this past year (preCOVID) has been rocky at best for me. We don't share similar future goals/experiences/hopes/dreams. We don't really share common interests anymore. Other than the kids I really can't think of anything I want or need to talk to him about. 
He has been increasingly difficult to talk to because he thinks disagreeing with something requires a fight/argument. Even simple everyday things. I asked him if he could please turn on the dishwasher as i was heading out the door because i forgot to (i had just loaded it) and he proceeds to complain about having to stop work to do the dishes. I said to forget it i would do it when i get home and continued to go on and on. I left because i needed ot get to work and the kids to camps.

We had a big blow up a week ago about weather or not still take a family vacation to a tourist spot. I said I would rather err on the side of caution this time and postpone. He slammed his fists down and started screaming how "I just want to waste money". I said i think we should call to see if we can postpone or get a refund. If not we could discuss options. This wasn't good enough. He went on and on and on. 
I have to say, something just clicked in me. I am just so over him and what our marriage has become. I just don't have it in me. 
I work a stressful job at an outpatient clinic and just don't even want to go home most days. 
Our kids are young (under 11) but I am just miserable and the thought of being with him for another 11 years makes me feel dead inside. [/quote]

Get counseling.

I would divorce over the three "A's":  abuse, adultery, addiction[/quote]

“The three As?” Vast majority of marriages have one or more of those three occur at one point or another. Be realistic before you get married. Marriage is hard and understand what addiction actually means. Plenty of functional alcoholics in DC who also figure out a way to hold it together at home. Plenty of cheaters in this town too whose spouses either turn a blind eye, or also have an AP - and many of these homes are stable. Basically, I would leave if DH physically abused me. [/quote]

People like you are the reason I stayed so long in an abusive relationship.  I thought as long as he wasn't hitting me, I should stay.  That is NOT true.  Emotional and verbal abuse can destroy the abused partner.  Infidelity as well.  [/quote]

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