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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I just want to say I'm sorry you're going through this. As a fellow HG survivor it is the hardest thing I have ever endured. Many people will not understand, thinking pregnancy is something normal people can get through just fine, with no understanding of just how sick someone with HG can get. I always had to be honest because there was simply no way to hide it so I don't have much advice there. Just a general, you got this, and you're in the worst of it now, and there are people out there who have been there who are rooting for you <3[/quote]

OP here. Thank you so much for this note, and I’m so sorry you suffered through this, too. A lot of people don’t get the severity and you’re right, it’s impossible to hide, especially when you’re being hospitalized. I’m still super torn about what to do, as I’m hoping I feel better by the time my furlough period ends (ugh, please body!) and that I can just go back to work remotely and tell my boss once I’m back and able to work. But I’m not a fortune teller and my OB has cautioned me this could be the situation until the baby is born — it might not be, but it could be. Worst case scenario I lose my job and go on my husband’s insurance and job hunt after the baby is born. Financially it would be really tough, but I know how lucky it is that that’s even an option (even if it’s not a great one). I’m trying to weigh all the outcomes, but honestly am just so exhausted and sick it’s a lot to even think about.

Anyway,  thank you so much for your kind words. They brought a lot of light into this dark time <3[/quote]

I'm glad it helped, even a little. It is so isolating, and where you are is the darkest of the dark. If you haven't already I would encourage you to join a group called "Hyperemesis Gravidarum (HG)" on facebook. It is kind of a crazy group because people from ALLLL walks of life get HG! But is insanely supportive for HG issues and really helped me get through it (2 times!).

If this is your first time through then for sure you will not know if you're one of the 40 weekers or the 14 weekers when it comes to sickness. For me, it always started to ease around 14 weeks and would improve a lot by 20 weeks. I have been pregnant 3 times, HG twice. With my son I had very severe morning sickness but it was not as bad as it was with my daughters. In my last pregnancy the nausea improved a lot for second tri but came back in the third. But in all three, weeks 8-13 were an order of magnitude worse than anything else. I was basically bedridden that time getting into the hospital for fluids but by 16-18 weeks I was back to being able to live my life.

You should do what feels right in your gut (even though nothing feels good in there right now!). I do think an employer may avoid laying off a pregnant woman for concerns, which is a mark in favor, and if you can work remotely that really makes it easier. I worked remotely through this last one and while it was hard, its easier to make it work from your own bed/bathroom floor than the office. But even remotely I couldn't hide it, my voice alone was sandpaper from the vomiting and it was tell them or sound hungover all the time.

Good luck, the baby is worth it at the end, even through the darkest moments <3[/quote]

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