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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like I could be done with one but her not having a sibling relationship gives me pause but at the same time I don’t want to have another kid just for that reason. Anyone have 2 to give your first a sibling and regret it? [/quote]

Once we had our #1, it was really important for me that she have a sibling because I grew up with siblings and this is what constituted in my mind the "expereince" of a family. We also wanted a 2nd and to us this completed our family but wow it was rough having them close together in age (20 months apart).

They play for hours together now and are very different but I love it. The only thing I will say as a mom I didn't like was that once #2 comes along, the relationship that you have with your first weakens because you have to take care of the baby. I miss having that close only bond with my first. It's still there but it changes because you add another baby but you get to witness the love between siblings.

I'll say this, would it be "easier" to have 1 child? Most likely. I absolutely do not regret having my two. One thing though is that other people will compare your children. But you love them both and it hurts you as a mom. I guess people would still comment on your only but not compare with their sibling in a hurtful manner. peace. [/quote]

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