Reply to Contacted by bio dad’s wife to cut off contact with bio dad

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Contacted by bio dad’s wife to cut off contact with bio dad"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Tell him and see what he does and how he reacts. Be prepared to be hurt if he chooses the wife. She is a bad person. Don’t do what she says. [/quote]

Different poster but she’s not bad. The wife has a point. [/quote]

It's none of her business. She should not have said anything at all.[/quote]

Of course it’s her business. She’s his wife. [/quote]

Then she should talk to her husband. She was way out of line. Op owes her nothing.

[b]Op, I’m not sure I’d come right out and rat out the woman. [/b]I’d feel him out to see how he feels about your relationship. If he asks why you are asking, then I’d bring up her comments. [/quote]

NP. I disagree. I think it's safe to assume the wife has been manipulative to the dad as well. If he starts getting a weird vibe from OP he may not know how to interpret it and might go accept whatever lies wife is telling him.

It is possible he is feeling overwhelmed at the thought that you lost your dad and now he's suppose to be "a real dad". It's probably worth you reflecting on what you want from him and being honest about whether you think you will get it. but his wife put you in an impossible an unfair position by sharing these things with you and telling you not to tell. It is OK to share them with bio dad. But as other people have said--hiis wife might be right and he might not want an intense relationship with you.

But if that is going to happen it's going to happen no matter what. Probably better to be upfront. You don't have to be dramatic about it. Just tell him that wife has expressed concerns and you were wondering if he shares them. You could make it easy for him and offer to "give him space" and let him initiate the next contact if he would like. Most likely he is just confused and feeling his way the same way you are. It doesn't mean you guys have to cut off contact.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics