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[quote=Anonymous][vimeo][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a full time job that is very demanding, even more so now that we have to work at home. My spouse has a job that doesn't require day-to-day work over the summer. Usually our kids would be at camp, but not this summer for obvious reasons. It is a daily struggle to get my spouse to engage the kids and get them out of the house every day. I set up playdates. [b]I suggest going to a pool. I suggest day trips. Most of the time he goes along with what i suggest but takes no initiative do anything[/b]. I'm sick of my kids coming to me and saying they're bored and asking me to play with them. I wish I could but I HAVE TO WORK! I'm just worn out and mad right now. [/quote]

Man, that's a lot of daily nagging. Stop nagging your spouse. [/quote]

I’m amazed at what people call “nagging.” A spouse who needs these kinds of prompts is failing, and you’re blaming the victim for having the bare minimum of expectations. [/quote]

This is OP--thank you for this response. I can assure the poster who says I'm nagging that it couldn't be farther from the truth. How is it nagging to suggest that my spouse engage the kids in some activity instead of looking their phone for hours at a time--while the kids do the same. I'm not saying they need to be out and about 8 hours a day--just do something active/fun to break up the monotomy. [/quote]

Here's the thing - if you're going to leave him in charge of the kids, then he gets to decide how he is going to spend that time with them. Now, if what happens is that they are on their iPads all day until you call them down to help with dinner and then they have crappy attitudes because they've been staring at screens all day, then he gets to deal with them. Otherwise, you need to let him be a parent and not treat him like a hired hand.[/quote]

I mean...is it really fine with you if your kids are on screens all day long, every day? The idea that he is “in charge” by putting them in front of iPads all day is laughable. The standards we hold men to are just a joke.[/quote]

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