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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was sexually abused as a kid...and I think your wife's reaction is overwrought and sad.  Your kid is NOT keeping a secret, quite obviously.  And the "secret" she is keeping, or not keeping, is so innocuous and wholesome and APPROPRIATE.  While her baby sister is sleeping she and grandma eat popsicles and watch TV?

Laugh with her at this fun with grandma and her specialness to have this treat.  I can't for the life of me see how this would set her up for "grooming" by a pedophile...to know that while her sister is sleeping, she and grandma have secret popsicles and tv together...that translates into the notion that secrets should be kept from Mom and Mommy about strangers touching her body?  This is so incredibly farfetched.

By the way, the whole "grooming" phenomenon is statistically very over-focused on by parents.  I know when I was molested, it was very much a crime of opportunity for the pedophile.  He didn't know my brother and me before that day and we happened to be playing alone.  Supervising your children is much more important that installing this fear of their loved ones in them, as if never having secret popsicles with grandma somehow protects you from being sexually molested?  No, it doesn't.  False correlation and anxiety talking.  [/quote]

Sorry about your trauma, but surely you must know that your case of abuse was actually the farfetched one. It's infinitely more common for children to be abused by someone they know. A trusted family member or friend. Actually, most people don't realize how prolific pedophiles are.

They aren't instilling fear but drawing a hard line at secrets. I don't think you've healed enough to weigh in here. [/quote]

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