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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son did the same. He has gender identity issues.  I hate having my things taken so I've helped him buy his own, which I, of course, pay for since he didn't have his own money.  He has a therapist but I don't know if they discuss this.  Also, he belongs to LGBTQ clubs in school.  I am not a therapist and I am his mom.  I'm here to talk, but more than likely, he's going to figure things out through a combination of experience, therapy, talking with his parents, talking with friends, dating, etc.

This really isn't an issue for punishment.  I never punished my daughter for "borrowing" my jewelry, so I wasn't going to punish my son for "borrowing" my undergarments.  If the only way that he can get them is to take them from you, then fix that.  Let him explore and figure out who he is.  You aren't going to punish away his sexual identity.

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In my opinion, no one should be taking things that don't belong to them without permission, jewelry, underwear etc.  Stealing is stealing and boundaries are boundaries. Sharing underwear is unsanitary if he's curious about women's or girl;'s underwear purchase some for his own .[/quote]

PP here.  My family is not so possessive of our things.  It's not unusual for us to buy jewelry to share or to just borrow things from each other.  You can't find your scarf when you're ready to walk out the door, take someone else's and send them a text.  You want to read a book that belongs to someone else, you take it and leave them a note.  This is not something we view as stealing.  So, with the undergarments, it was something that had to be stated.  For other families, that may be different.  But stealing isn't a term we would use in our family for borrowing something that belongs to someone else in the family.  Different rules apply, of course, when it is something from someone outside our immediate family.  [/quote]
My family was the same way. When I did laundry the men’s socks and underwear were all mixed up and nobody cared who got what pair back. That said, this is a different situation. [/quote]

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