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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lots of married people have these feelings and thoughts at some point.  Why do you think affairs are so common?

I would dial it back though, especially being alone with him when alcohol are involved.  He will probably sleep with you if you give him the chance.  If he is attractive and single, he isn't going to be with you long term, he has other options, harsh but true.  [/quote]

Plus, based upon your minimal interactions up to now...you only know the good parts. He undoubtedly has character flaws, annoying habits, all kinds of negatives that do not come across during superficial banter. Perhaps ask your friend why he is available, and you might get an earful. BUT you do not want to hint to that friend that you have a crush.

Try picturing him doing boring husband stuff, and think of some of your husband's qualities that shine. Is your husband a great dad? Super reliable? Would he care for you if sick?

Try to think about deep, longterm stuff. AND try to share with your husband that you think you guys are losing your spark (you don't have to say why you think that). Ask what you might consider to get it back. Tell him what you love about him and work together on new/fun avenues to explore together (picnics? hobbies? projects? trips for the future? hotels to try?) Good luck.[/quote]

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