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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I am sorry you did not have a chance to get to know your father before he died.

While your mother may claim that you were better without  him in your life, that was not her call to make.  She did not have the unilateral right to cut him out of his child's life. Sadly, many fathers may give up rather than fight the mother to the teeth for the right to maintain a relationship with their kids.  TBH, you mom doesn't sound like she was exactly good material for "Mother of The Year Award" either.

I would suggest you maintain contact with your older half-brother to learn what you can about your dad.  Perhaps consider donating to a non-profit which helps fathers legally maintain relationships with their children. [/quote]

Are you kidding? Do you know the kind of trauma a "partying by night" parent can cause? The lasting damage to a kid's live that they can't get over and carry with them throughout their lives -- I think the fantasy of the father that might have been is much preferable. OP's father partied hard and committed suicide. Sounds like not having him in OP's life might have been the only good decision she made.[/quote]

That information about the father was provided by the MOTHER.  The same woman who kept getting pregnant, gave 3 children up for adoption, and nearly did the same for OP.  I would guess that there was some partying going on by mom, too.  So I find anything the mother says about the father to be highly suspect.

You obviously don't understand, aren't aware of, or don't want to acknowledge the importance of fathers in childrens' lives.  And that even goes for criminals. Every prison system in this country has programs, paid for by taxpayers, to assist men in having a relationship with their children. 
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