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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know multiple adults who have no driver’s license. They get by fine with alternate arrangements.

[b]Butt out, OP.  It’s not your business in any way. [/quote][/b]

It's my business because I live in another country and my sister is begging me to come stay with her this summer so that I can drive her and her child around because she thinks using Ubers and taxis exposes her to covid.  I have a college aged son and my sister has a two year old, so she says she really needs me more than my own family.  She is not in contact with her ex so he can't help.  She is also begging me not to tell our brother or parents because she is so embarrassed.

I really would prefer not to travel to another country during the pandemic to sit in my sister's house as her chauffeur and nanny.  I have my own family, even though ds is older. This is why I am trying to suggest alternatives for her.[/quote]

It’s still not your business. Even if she tries to make it your business. It’s a ridiculous, ridiculous ask, which makes me wonder about boundaries in your family. Just calmly tell her that no, you can’t upend your own life to come and care for her family, and would she like you to help her brainstorm alternatives? And Uber’s  not that bad Covid wise – just tell her to wear a mask and open the window. Wife is a Covid researcher and she will take Uber with the window open.[/quote]

Agreed.  OP, it's not your business.  If you don't want to do it, you shouldn't do it.  You are under no obligation to leave your family and be her personal butler.  She can hire a college student to play that role.  If she's a PhD she should have some connection to academic institutions who might know someone who needs a summer job.  Or, yes, use Uber.[/quote]

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