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[quote=Anonymous]My boys suffered this for years. It is brutal, and no amount of physical therapy can change they way they are made.

For one, doing an individual sport that he could talk about at school that the other kids didn't do helped. But the playground bullying didn't stop until middle school, sadly.

The other made friends with the kids who didn't play sports at school, so that helped a lot. They had each other.

With both, we worked hard to find the things they were interested in and that they were good at, so that they found success and joy and friendship in non-sport activities to counteract the damage inflicted by the mean kids on the playground. We also made sure they were involved in daily physical activity away from the group-think of rec team sports. Summer swimming was good though; but that can be team specific.

Love your child, support your child, don't "pile on" by trying to make them good at sports if they aren't made that way -- it will send the message that you essentially agree with the mean kids. I'm not saying give up; keep trying, but be aware of the subtle psychological message that goes along with it.

Activities to consider to counter the playground ego-blow: scouts, hiking, climbing, cycling, yoga, fencing (b.c even if not very good, not many classmates will be doing it), dance (ballroom, tap, hip-hop, etc.), musical instrument or voice, theater, coding club, chess, STEM competition clubs, robotics, cooking, horticulture. On the physical things, the point is not that they are easier or he'd have a better chance at being good, but rather it is a chance to try it out of the spotlight of schoolmates.[/quote]

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