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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DW has been co sleeping with our 13 month old son since he was about 3 months old. They have a very close bond and she’s a fantastic mother.

But I miss my wife. I miss having evenings with her. Often times she or I will put him down in and then she goes to bed about an hour or two later. If we’re intimate, it’s only in the shower. I’d like to have another child one day and she’s intent on continuing to co sleep with BOTH kids. She child proofed the bedroom and bought a king sized bed and it’s on the floor with a frame that’s low to the ground. Our son had a custom Montessori floor bed in his room.

I tried to put our son down in his room alone last night and he went down just fine. He woke after about two hours crying and could not be consoled by me. It’s very clear my DW is the preferred parent and she was very distressed at the idea of not sleeping next to our DS.

Im concerned my wife and son are almost too attached to eachother. My wife is into the whole gamet: slings, wraps, Montessori preschools and attachment parenting. I’m not sure I buy into all of it but I play along. I just wish they could sleep apart for ONE night.  [/quote]

Ive coslept with my kid since 4 months when we moved him out of the RnP. He had horrible reflux that exacerbated a breathing issue. We moved him to his own bed for naps at 16/17 months and then naps and bed at 20months. Less than a month into that, a family member had to move in unexpectedly for 6 months, we moved into a bigger house and took a month to get used to the new house before we started transitioning into him sleeping in his room again. He is 28 months. Don't listen to the horror stories from peoples anecdotal experiences 2nd and 3rd hand.

Have you had a discussion with her regarding WHY she believes in co sleeping? I mean, what is the problem? You get 1-2 hours after bedtime, you get sex regularly (but in the shower?). she works FT, and is caring, involved mother.

Can you ask yourself how things would change (in your mind) if she stops co sleeping? What is the difference? You get tucked into bed vs your kid- I say that tongue in cheek but you need to make sure that if you are asking her how to change this big part of your sons routine that you aren't imagining some outlandish expectations for your evenings together. In addition, as a working FT mother- co sleeping is a way I can connect with my kid during the 10-12 hours I am away. and vice versa. At 28 months, he now babbles about his day in the dark and we talk about the next day (what going to happen). He will hold my hand as he falls asleep or ask for cuddles. I wouldn't change it for the world and my DH doesn't begrudge me because he gets time to read the news and watch Bill Maher- something I wouldn't do with him if I wasn't putting our son to bed.

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