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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

[quote=Anonymous]It’s going to depend on who you are dating. If your dating divorced women with kids closer to your age, you are going to likely relate to them more. If you are dating never married younger women they don’t want to hear about your kids.  [/quote]

The former. I figure the latter aren't interested.

[quote=Anonymous] To be honest, you don’t sound ready to date. You need to figure out that 50% of the time you don’t have kids...what hobbies do you enjoy, books you have read, travels you have taken or would like to take, activities with friends, etc.  [/quote]

No, I already know all that stuff. I have never had a problem entertaining myself. Just don't think a lot of it would sound "exciting" - or at least, not sure how much a woman would want to hear about my workout this morning or the history book I'm reading. Much of what I do with kids is also what I do when not with kids - e.g., ride bike, go for hikes, go kayaking, go to sports events and live music.

[quote]If you portray yourself as exciting, you will have to pretend to be exciting all the time, won't that be exhausting? [/quote]

I guess I'm looking for something in between "exciting all the time" and "boring all the time" - and I'm worried I'm too close to the "always boring" end of the scale. =)

[quote]What do you talk to your friends about? Be yourself, or it is a bait and switch, likely to fail. [/quote]

Our "locker room talk" is mostly about tanks, combat jets, and the idiocy of politicians. =)

[quote]Whatever you do, do not mention yoga or meditation on your profile or include pictures of your kids. Shirtless pics are also out as our bathroom selfies. [/quote]

I actually do practice yoga and meditation, but don't mention it in my profile. No kid photos, shirtless pics, or bathroom selfies.

My real photo problem is that for many years I have been the guy taking the photos, and most of the photos of me do have my kids in them too. Not many photos of "just me" at all, alas.

[quote]How old are you and how old are your kids? Are you interested in women in their 20s? [/quote]

50s. I am unusually fit and strong for my age, but I am sure you could tell by looking roughly how old I am. Kids are teens.

I cannot imagine a woman in her 20s being interested in me, so I'm not even wasting my time or energy chasing them in the apps. Very doubtful a woman in her 30s wants a guy in his 50s for that matter, especially if she doesn't have kids and wants them.
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OP, you don't sound boring at all. The only thing I wonder about based on your responses--and sorry if I am way off base---is if you feel you are settling for women closer to your age, versus genuinely being attracted to them?  The women closer to your age that you date eventually might pick up on that if that's what's going on.  That would be much more off-putting that being boring.[/quote]

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