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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could have written your post. I try really hard not to take it personally, but at a certain point (after, say, two unreciprocated invitations), I stop.

I'm sorry we don't know each other in real life -- I'd invite you over![/quote]

OP here--thanks!  I do take it personally, I don't see how one couldn't take it personally.  I just don't know what I'm doing wrong.  I'm a nice, normal person.  DH says that I'm "too drama-free."  His theory is that people like people with drama, and those with too little drama come off as inauthentic somehow.  I thought that was an interesting perspective.  It made me think of an acquaintance I used to be friendly with who was so full of drama all the time that it got really tiring, but the ironic thing was that she has tons of friends and is always out with people.

I even started seeing a therapist so I could get some objective feedback about why I can't make friends and what I'm doing to turn people off.  The therapist was not able to offer me any suggestions.  [/quote]

Dear OP,

you are describing me in a lot of ways and I have the same problem.  Are you from another country by chance?  I am and I have found it very diffcult to connect with people.  I have made more efforts to reach out to people and that has helped but I have also discovered that some of those people bring drama to my life that I don't need.  I have been told that I come off as intimidating and not easily approachable.

By the way, I would totally be up to getting to know you but it seems inappropriate to connect from an anonymous board based on what I read :([/quote]

I'm from this country.  I never found it difficult to connect with people before moving here.  Not saying that this area is the problem, because I don't think it's that.  Can you explain more about what you think it is that people mean when they said you come off as intimidating and not easily approachable?  Maybe that's my problem too and I had no clue.[/quote]

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