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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you are the excluded one, you aren't as close as you think

Find a better use for your time/energy[/quote]

You’re right. When I say close, I just mean she was initiating getting together several times a week with me and we talked often. So in my mind we were close but you’re right. Close friends don’t exclude each other in a situation similar to what happened. 1 out of a large group not invited. I’m also seeing now that we were never really friends. I was more of an acquaintance she kept around to get to know others. I’m a little more outgoing and had other friends she was interested in getting to know. [/quote]

Yeah, just get what you can out of the situation in terms of maybe having fun sometimes with the people if you don't have a better option that day, but don't count on them or go out of your way for them either

I know people that sometimes disappoint me, sometimes come by and hang out with the group. We can have some laughs together but I won't expect anything from them or consider them close friends[/quote]

Yes they did. But it was awkward due to her organizing it. More awkward bc they were people she had met once or twice and friends of mine for years. People had assumed she invited me bc she lied about it.

Well the problem isn’t the group. It’s her. I don’t understand people like that but it’s your typical type A wants to be the leader of everything type of person. I think I just need to ignore and do what I want to do and not let her influence me. I made some plans with friends in the group who I have been friends with for years. I’ll be polite to her but there’s no point putting any effort into a fake friendship. [/quote]

Just to be clear - did someone else invite you after you were excluded? Or they all did the plan without you? If the latter, I'd be more worried [/quote][/quote]

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