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[quote=Anonymous]You have a problem. You seem to acknowledge it which is good.

Cleaning for 3 hours every day means that your cleaning is extreme.

You need to learn to let go of things that don't matter - perfectionism is harmful for your kids.

What you can do is throughout the day, stop and do a clean up song. This works best if there is some incentive (a snack or a new thing or a fun moment) after the clean up time. Go to a room and say that everyone has to clean up as much as they can in one minute. Make it a game / song. And then sing a song that lasts a minute with everyone cleaning up the toys in that room for a minute. That gest most things put a way.

There is no way it can reasonably take you more than 20-30 minutes to clean up kids toys at the end of the day. Another 15-30 minutes to clean floors and counters and tables and you are good to go.

Definitely look into therapy when this is over. The need to excessively control your environment is usually a sign that you don't feel in control in your own head so you are trying to control the people and space around you as a proxy.[/quote]

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