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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. We have a playroom with a door that shuts. It’s the only room with a door on the first floor but it’s a glass door. Before this all happened Dh and I were on the kids nonstop and toys didn’t leave the playroom. But now we have a bounce house in family room, train table in the living room, legos on the dining room table... Weve been trying to rotate the kids through rooms like they’re “stations” which helps them but does destroy the house. The playroom is too small for the train table or bounce house and we kind of like legos on a table versus on the floor where we step on them.

Back to cleaning I guess. I just wish I could control my anger more. [/quote]

You are ANGRY at BABIES for being messy? This is a huge Mom fail. Priorities, priorities. Why don't you try to have one space or two off limit spaces? You can decompress with those. Gently encourage cleanup. Find and an Elmo video or similar showing them what to do

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To be fair, she didn't say she was angry at her babies. I think OP is being honest that this is an anger problem, not a problem with the kids.

OP, I used to feel this way, but I've just given up on trying to keep things clean all day. It's just not realistic with toddlers. Do you have any sense of why it bothers you so much to leave play dough out for a few hours?

For us, it has helped to set a designated clean up time right before bath where our 1 year old helps clean up her toys. It's mostly just her handing us toys to put in bins, but it keeps her occupied and means there's less to do after bed. And I think the fact that it's part of the routine is helpful. The dumb Barney song seems to help, too. I don't know if this would work with the 3 year old though.

Is your partner helping with the cleanup after bed? Three hours is nuts to pick up toys and do the dishes.[/quote]

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