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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP!  PP 16:47 here, the one with the call the next morning.  I'm glad that it helped you what I wrote, and I am crossing my fingers, that it will work out for you!!!  I know exactly how you feel, my DH was very cost conscious also, and I had the same thoughts as you.
What the best contingency plan would be depends on your situation, and has so many variables.  For us, we didn't carry a diagnosis, other than "unexplained" after every imaginable test came back normal.  In addition to the "advertised" reasons for NCIVF,  I also chose it because IVF was absolutely incompatible with my job.  The NCIVF was already problematic despite taking vacation etc, and for 'full' IVF I would have had to quit or take an extended leave of absence, which either way I would have had to announce 3 months in advance!  That, plus the costs, plus the constant feeling; "There is nothing wrong with us, why isn't it happening?", had me in the grip of not knowing what to do at all.  The call that day hit me harder than I had expected going in.  Somehow I had thought a problem would either occur at retrieval or with transfer, but the embryo dying in the lab I had not expected... I cried for days... and then we decided to take a break for several months to try on our own again.  But we didn't get pregnant.
DH and I then decided that we would maybe do one more NCIVF, and then IVF, meaning I would start an extended leave of absence, and maybe forced to resign. I was sick with financial worry.  Because of the 3 months lead time I needed anyways, I asked for one unmedicated monitored cycle with timed intercourse.  We did that, and at the last minute we added an IUI (all unmedicated).  Unexpectedly, around this time I also had some of the greatest physical and mental stress, and the 2 wk wait flew by, because of all that was going on.  I was driving when I got the call, and pulled over.  Coincidentally it was that one snippy nurse I had mentioned who simply said: "Yeah, your test came back positive and you need to come back the day after tomorrow."  I was like: "OMG, OMG, are you sure?"  She said: "Did you not hear me?" and "You don't have to believe me..."  after I had stammered a few more "Are you sure?", and I don't remember what else she said.  I hung up, and cried and cried, this time tears of joy.  We had been TTC for over 3 years!  ... and are expecting our little one shortly!  Wow, this is the first time I'm writing this down...  and I hope it will give you hope.  [/quote]

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