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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]OP here. I was mentally divorced 9 years ago...at the very beginning. I think that is why.[/quote]

Any sympathy I had for you just disappeared.  If you were checked out from the very beginning, the marriage never had a chance and you just stole 9 years from your spouse.  That's a crappy thing to do to someone.[/quote]

Yeah, well, he forced an unplanned pregnancy. I was planning to leave. He is the one who made it last. I had to wait almost 8 years to get back to the right state where my job was to leave. He was threatening divorce from months into the marriage. I wanted to leave then. My mom said wait and then literally when I said I did not want to have sex because I did not want a kid, he forced the issue. I was ill. Who stole whose life here? Screw you.[/quote]

Oh please. You had total control over whether or not you used contraception and over whether or not you carried the child to term. Stop making weak excuses for your own bad decisions.[/quote]

He knew I did not want to. I was off the pill for two days because I had a 104 degree temperature. What happened to me was called reproductive coercion and it is a form of domestic abuse. I said no before and that day. In the state I was in it was near impossible to divorce while pregnant. I had to wait YEARS to get back to a geographical desirable area for my work. He would not move. I could not leave due to custody issues. If I had not been raised religiously, I would have had an abortion. I could not justify it being married. The bad decision was the marriage. I was planning to leave literally the same month this happened--even my family knew. The timing was awful. My point was...I did not steal years from him--my response it to the poster that assumed I stole years from him. He stole the years from my to get myself into a position in the right state to leave.

Anyone on earth would be emotionally divorced from someone when they were not happy to begin with and then they forced a pregnancy to happen knowing full well the person did not want a kid with him or her.[/quote]

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