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[quote=Anonymous]I think both your mom and your DH overreacted on this situation, but it is probably based on past interactions. If this were my household, either mom, we would grumble, disinfect and move on. But - we present a united front on all things, which you and your DH are not doing. Forgot this this taking sides mess - you discuss this with your DH and let your mom know in uncertain terms that neither your nor your DH will defer to her. Also, don’t sweep this under the rug as “it’s cultural”. This is just YOUR mom, and I DO think your DH being white contributes to your mom’s problem, especially if your DH wasn’t raised in a similar fashion. You need to cut those apron strings. I get it - I’m the only child of a single, black mother. But your mom is tripping - the statements about you not being safe raise red flags for me as far as her interference, and willingness to manipulate you (she knows she can’t manipulate your DH).[/quote]
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