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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd like to advise my daughters not to kill the relationship on the hill of "But my career."  When it comes down to it, work's not really all that exciting, even though it may seem so when you are in your early or mid-twenties.  IN retrospect, I regret the years I spent apart from my spouse due to 'but my career', etc.

In general, I'd like to tell them to give less of their souls to the company store, but that so goes against all that bullshit that you get at your liberal arts college about 'making a difference' and your career as your identity, etc. 
I suppose I"ve been thinking about mortality more than usual this week, and in the grand scheme of things, I"m feeling like most of the time it is just a job.[/quote]

I will absolutely be talking to both my son and my daughter about this.

Balance.  I have a good career but nothing means more to DH and I than our time with family.  Nothing.

[b]Nobody ever looks back and says they should have worked mor[/b]e.[/quote]

People always say this, but I think it's simplistic and not really true.  I know LOTS of people who look back over their lives and feel great satisfaction at a career that they feel like was interesting, rewarding in lots of ways, and maybe contributed to the public good.  I also know plenty of people who look back and wish that they had been able to achieve a bit more with their careers, and that's their big disappointment in life.  Plus there's the people who are unable to pay for their homes and medication in retirement because they didn't put enough focus into their career at the right time -- I'm sure a lot of them look back and think they should have worked more.  And the women that are trapped in bad marriages because they don't have a career that will support them when they want to leave.

I think it's easy to say "oh, I should have worked less" when you worked a boring job and have a comfortable retirement.  But there's lots of people not in that situation, either because their job was really meaningful, or because they really needed to have made more money.[/quote]

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