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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’ll be okay, OP!  I was the one who didn’t bond well with my kids when they were babies, and I had 4 of them (2 twins).  Seriously, some people aren’t into infants and can’t handle the aspect of them not “making sense” (why are they crying?! what do they want from me?!).

Please be patient.  My kids are all grown up now, we’re tightly bonded, and I picked up the slack when they were teens.  ;) Okay, I really did begin understanding babies more when they were 6 months or so, but it’s not in my nature to attach to infants.  I don’t know why it is.  There’s was no long-term harm done, at least if you ask my kids.

This is all new, and I can’t even imagine what it’s like to be parenting during quarantine.  Hugs to you all!

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Thank you.  Did you have PPD/PPA?  Or maybe just not enjoying newborns in general (which I totally understand)?  How long did it take for the feelings to pass and what did your partner think?[/quote]

I might have had a little PPD with my twins, but not with my oldest, and not with my youngest.  I just don’t enjoy newborns.  On the other hand, I truly enjoy the teen years, which seems to make me an outlier among my peers!  The feelings passed by the time the babies were 6 months or so.  My DH was then and has always been an amazing partner (much as you describe your DH to be), and he took up the slack when I felt unable to handle things.  I’m lucky that he’s genuinely great with infants.  As a matter of fact, he allowed me to sleep in a separate room most nights when our babies were little, and he slept with them—sometimes on his chest.  :D

Our kids are now in their early to late twenties, and my DH & I have spoken many times over the years about our early reactions to our children.  It’s clear that he and I are exceedingly different, but over time, we proved equally supportive of each other.  When I needed him to take over in the early years, he was there, and I stepped up when he couldn’t tolerate the teen attitudes and intense communication periods.  He excels at caretaking, and I excel at minutiae.

Based on your description, your DH is a good man who will definitely step up as soon as he can.  You guys have got this![/quote]

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