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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP I'm sorry.  Yes, this is common.

How were you guys pre-baby?

Could you just ask him what's going on?

Like, hey, you doing ok adjusting to all this?  You gotta do it when you're not mad at him or fighting.  Bring curiosity to the question, not anger.

Also, I've seen this book recommended in other threads, though I have not read it myself.

https://www.amazon.com/Hate-Your-Husband-After-Kids/dp/0316267104[/quote]

We have had a few discussions.  He says he feels lost in his role (my family was  over a lot enjoying the baby and taking care of it so we can rest before this quarantine business- almost everyday; I LOOOOOVE the help but even for me sometimes their presence was overbearing).  He admitted that he definitely didn’t bond with her immediately  and felt guilty, but couldn’t help what he felt...he said it’s hard for him to bond to something that he just met, whereas I got to bond with her for 9 months in my belly...it sucks to hear but I appreciate his honesty and I can’t blame him for feeling that way.  [/quote]

Oh that's normal. And much harder for many guys early on. She'll smile and start recognizing him in just a couple weeks and then it'll be easier. Do give him the baby and go shower or whatever. Have him change diapers etc. 
my dh took a month of leave to be with the baby solo when I went back to work at 4.5 months and it was a game changer for him. He had to do it all himself and learn her cues. We have a second baby now and she smiles ear to ear when he enters the room and holds her. He's great at making her giggle and pretty much uses her a kettle bell and exercises with her etc. it will be ok. Good for him for admitting he's a little lost with the baby. 
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