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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How about hit pause....no Judge is going to think your case is a priority right now.  Your Ex pays child support so what is the rush?  I’d concentrate on getting a new job.  What is the precise dispute regarding separation date and how does that impact $$. What is an RSU?[/quote]
my ex owns some company stock (restricted stock units). the dispute is whether he received them before or after separation date. [/quote]
He is going to fight it.  Was he living in the Apt at the time? Were you sleeping with him?  So long as he is paying support no need to go to Court.  If he stops, get an order for temporary support. In the meantime, file for unemployment and work on getting another job and save the fight for six months from now. [/quote]
No and no. [b]He moved out, changed jobs and received stock,[/b] then I filed. 
My issue is, while I am unemployed, I can't apply for any camp scholarships for example, since my income on paper looks so good. I know there are no camps now but if/when life is back up, I want to be prepared. [/quote]
If he moved out and then got the stock why do you think you’re entitled? When you filed doesn’t matter. He moved out because you all were separating.[/quote]

It's murky waters, moving out does not automatically mean separation, as I was told by a lawyer, but I don't want to get into a situation where I have to dispute it in court. I was hoping to use these stocks as leverage in dividing other assets, but it looks like it's going to be costly and time-consuming (calculating the value, etc). 
I am thinking of leaving my attorney, getting back the remainder of the retainer, and doing stuff on my own with some input from a lawyer (but not retaining one). Or maybe even pausing it until the crisis is over. [/quote]

Don't play games by leveraging.  You are entitled to 1/2 or what ever your state states in their laws that you get during your marriage.  You ask for 1/2 all assets earned during marriage but that also includes your retirement and other things as well.  You offer him summers, holidays and 2-3 weekends a month and one night a week for dinner.  He can pay for camp during his time which will save you money.  You start trying to play games and leverage you will escalate it and you easily could be $100K each in attorney bills.  When he moved out, you separated.  He moved out and got a new job.  You are not entitled to that or future earnings once you divorce.  You are entitled to child support based off formula or what you agree to.[/quote]

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