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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why did you marry him?  You note that it's gotten better over the years so this trait didn't just emerge.  You were well aware of it before you got married.  Why is it your DH's job to fix the loose outlet?  Is that something you two agreed he'd do before you got married? He isn't the only one who has traits that are unattractive. [/quote]

OP here. It's not all bad with my DH, I just get frustrated with this trait that he has. I'm not saying it's his job to fix the loose outlet, but if he's already been working with the cable guy, and I'm upstairs managing the kids, why come upstairs and ask me to help, leaving the kids on their own, without even trying to do it on your own first? I could see if he tried and couldn't figure it out, so he came to ask me if I might be able to figure it out. But no, he didn't even try, his first thought was to come get me. [/quote]

Because he lacks self-confidence. He thinks he'll screw it up and embarrass himself in front of the cable guy. Next time you do something, when it's just you and him, encourage him to do it on his own, while you watch. It's like a mommy bird teaching a baby bird how to fly. You just have to stand there and push him out of the nest. When he cries, you have to be firm and say that you won't do it, but you are willing to stand next to him and answer any questions he might have. As he slowly builds his confidence, he won't ask you anymore.[/quote]

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