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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks everyone - sorry for being so vague.  I was trying to prevent it from becoming a argument about the particular value.  Trump supporting is a great corollary.  [/quote]

What makes a person a good friend? Imo, a friend to me is someone I genuinely like, have fun with, can laugh and cry with, who supports me and accepts my support, who doesn't judge me or try to change me, and likes me as I am. What do you value in friendship, op? [/quote]

This is great, thanks.  I'm not being a friend to this person - I'm not supporting them or and I'm definitely judging them.  I guess the question then is what I can just let go and continue to be supportive and where there is a line crossed that I can no longer be a good friend.[/quote]

You have to decide for yourself what you will tolerate. For me, if my friend is harming herself or someone else (actually physically or psychologically harming) that is a deal breaker. If she is making choices I don't agree with, which don't cause true harm (getting screwed over by a jerk stinks, but isn't harm) I stay out of it. The closest I came to dropping a friend over something you're describing was my friend who is in an abusive marriage. Ultimately, I decided that her friendship was worth it. She has no minor children and has a job. I have strict boundaries regarding what her husband knows about my family, etc. It disgusts me because he allows us to be friends due to his belief that I am okay with it. She is my friend and I love her. She knows I will help her when she is ready. My friend is good to me and I won't abandon her.[/quote]

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