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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't care about plates or drinking from a cup. I would have a hard time understanding why the place is so dirty. [/quote]

+1.  Being poor is not a character flaw[/quote]

For men it is...for women it is not [/quote]

It's not a character flaw for anyone.

However, my husband's rich buddies from his fancy university would have continued to date her, but eliminated her as marriage material. They all married girls they knew at their boarding school, their parents' friends daughters, etc. None of them married outside their family's financial/social class, though they dated all sorts of women in the interim.

I've been trying to explain this to my single friend for the better part of a decade (we're almost 40). She's from a perfectly financially stable but working class family and has been looking for a wealthy guy in NYC for many years. She has lots of relationships but none have progressed, not even to cohabitation. I keep explaining to her these guys rarely marry outside of their circle but she doesn't believe me, even though it's been a good 8 years of her trying and not succeeding. She is very beautiful, has a decent career, and thinks that will be enough.  [/quote]

This reminds me of my roomate during medical school.  She dated lots of men, and even had one very serious boyfriend, but she always told me that she was going to marry this man she knew in high school.  Their parents traveled in the same circle, and had more or less arranged it.  She would go to visit him every few months, and they would have sex.  
I remember asking her if she felt like she was cheating on her serious boyfriend, and she would say, “how can I cheat on a boyfriend with the man I am going to marry?”  And then she would say that she wasn’t cheating on her future husband with her boyfriend because they had agreed to date other people until she was 25 & he was 27, when they would get engaged.  
Sure enough, near the end of school, they got engaged.  He found work near wherever she went for residency, and they were married a year later.  [/quote]

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