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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, tell us more about the kids involved - are they all hers from prior marriage?  How old and why are you supporting them?  Where is their father?  Do you have kids togehter?[/quote]

All hers from prior marriage.  Only one gets any child support due to their ages.  Dad is out of the picture.  No kids together.  I support them because no one else can/does.

I feel like a heel for even thinking about this because of the impact on the kids...their mother has had repeated relationships fail.  Should have been a red flag to me but she convincingly persuaded me each of them were asses in different ways. [/quote]

When you say you support her kids who are too old to get child support from their father: Do they live with you and DW? Do they live elsewhere?

Does "support" mean...what, exactly? You pay their rent and car payments etc., or you send them a bit of cash here and there? Or they totally live with and depend on you for food and a roof over their heads?

I'm sorry to hit you with specific questions but the level of that "support" and how much real money it adds up to each month seems pretty vital to consider as the first place to find income that you can reel back in to pay your bills and not the bills of adult children.

I do make an exception if they're college students and you're helping with tuition etc. which would be exceptionally kind of you but might have to be ramped back.

The virus situation being what it is at this moment, I will not breezily say, "They need to get jobs" or "DW needs to get a real job," because there may be no jobs where you/they are, or no jobs they can work that might not result in their bringing home the virus to you.[/quote]

High school/college kids.  One is staying with BF now and graduates this spring.  Middle was in college until this virus stuff hit and is doing classes at home now.  Youngest is in HS.  No rational way to cut any of that off.

On top of this my wife took out multiple PLUS loans she'll never be able to pay.

The job thing is hard because of where we live (very rural).  [/quote]

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