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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I have offered free child care for the future, to be shared with my DD?s boyfriend?s mom.  We?ve talked about taking care of any children so DD & her BF (potential DH) could work.  This came up a couple of times over the past few years when DD mused about having kids.

I know this hesitancy to marry & have kids is a generational thing, but I?m struggling with understanding it.  I?m supportive of all my kids and only share my frustration with my DH.[/quote]
The hesitancy is that life is different now. My mom still thinks that a woman having to bear the burden of all the child care and house chores is just the way things are, and she marvels that my DH does a lot in the house.  Woman now a days don't accept the role the older generation (like you) have imposed on the younger generation.  Women have more choices now. Why would they subscribe to a role early on in their lives that means giving up their freedom?  Let's face it.. having kids means no more freedom and independence.

I am pushing 50, and I waited till 35 to have my first child; married in my early 30s and didn't really date until my early 30s. My brother got married when he was 40.

I have told my children (tween/teens) to not get married too young. Wait till AT LEAST 30, then wait to have kids if they can. Live your life; have fun, then settle down.[/quote]

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