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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t help but feel that DH and I did something wrong that all 3 of our grown kids have no interest in marriage or kids.  We’ve been happily married for 35 years, and all our kids are doing well in terms of social, economic, emotional, and educational outlook.  But the mid-thirties daughter bounces from one relationship to another, the late-twenties daughter has been living with her boyfriend for 5 years and talks vaguely about marriage but doesn’t seem to care one way or the other, and the late-twenties son is single and disinterested in dating.

I know my kids have the right to wait to have kids—or to be childfree—but I want to be a grandparent so badly.  I’m having intense jealousy because both my sister and my SIL (husband’s sister) are about to become grandparents.

Ugh.  Just venting.[/quote]
The dating world is vastly different than it was in your time. Men of your generation were raised to quickly settled down with the first girl they love. That’s not what the world has been like in at least the last 25 years. There is so much more focus on career, finding yourself, having fun etc and less on finding someone quickly to start a family with.

Your older daughter may well want to be married with kids but is only encountering men that want to date. Same with your younger daughter. And you yourself say your son doesn’t really date.

If your children decide they want to be parents, then support them. Whether they are married or not. Too many women miss the opportunity to have children because they are all looking for the same guy. Single parenthood isn’t for everyone but it’s shame to see so many wonderful women not have the opportunity to be parents.[/quote]

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