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[quote=Anonymous]It depends. If he was getting shots or something painful then I don't think there should be an expectation that he has no negative emotions. Expecting stoicism from males is problematic. There still a lot of 'man up' expected from boys that they don't cry, don't show fear, don't get upset or emotions or show weakness about things that are upsetting. It isn't healthy at all.

When I was a kid I cut my head open and I remember my parents telling me that if I didn't cry or get upset, then they would take me for ice cream. Going to the hospital, getting stitches etc - it was all pretty scary and it hurt but I suffered through it with a smile for that ice cream. My parents and the docs aware so proud of me for doing great but honestly learning to suppress how you feel to meet other people's expectations of great isn't healthy at all. It impacted me well into adulthood.

Different from just regular bratty behavior but I often see expectations that a child do great in a new or scary or difficult situation and I don't think that is a healthy or realistic expectation.
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