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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People used to think I was a horrible mother because I would push my kid.  If she was doing backwalkovers and she crumbled at the end I'd just say "Do it again," and if I had to say that over and over before she got it right, so be it.

I only compliment when it is deserved.[/quote]

Boy am I glad my parents didn’t try to coach me when I did gymnastics. You sound toxic.[/quote]

Nah, DD loved it, which is why I did it.  If you want to learn to do something physical, you have to do it over and over again.  [/quote]

DP.  I think tone is a big part of it.

I work with kids who struggle academically.  When they make a mistake I don't fake it or let them fake it either.  I use a neutral tone of voice to give a prompt and then tell them to try again.  It is completely different from a coach I had when I was a tween who used to get up in my face and scream "DO IT AGAIN," usually leaving the "you jacka$$" or some equivalent unsaid but you knew he was dying to say it.

The other part is acceptance and non-judgment.  My students know that I accept almost everything as long as they try and the only thing they get judged on by me is whether they tried. If they don't try, however, then all bets are off![/quote]

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