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It’s fine if you want to be with him. There’s a lid for every pot.

Just remember this: this is as good as it gets. He’s never going to change. Every time you’re at a crossroads, every big decision, he’s going to drag his feet even when you KNOW what the right decision is. Marriage, kids, career moves, buying a home, decorating your home, getting a pet, choosing a school for the kids if you’re still young enough to have them when he gives the go ahead...

It’s not that he’s bad or unworthy of love that concerns me. It’s that you’re already frustrated with who he is at his core when you’re only 2 years in, when you’re both still on your best behavior. Imagine dealing with his decision related paralysis when you’re sleep deprived with 2 under 2 trying to keep your career from being mommy tracked and he needs his hand held as you’re trying to convince him he needs to rearrange his work schedule so he can help with daycare drop offs or that you need more space and a bigger home. Things are optimal and stress free right now, and while the rewards grow over time, so does the stress. It’s not going to get easier. [/quote]

This is so true. [/quote]

+1 You just got some great wisdom; dcum at its best. 100% true.[/quote]

+1000.  This is him at his best and he will likely crater under the pressure of small kids.  Do you really want to work so hard for every step forward?  Do you want to make all decisions yourself and beg him to give you minimal cooperation?  That will get old very, very fast.  You can do better.  No sit-down talk, no ultimatum.  You should not spend any more time with this man.  Tell him you want different things and break up.  Love is nowhere near enough if you want a family.
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