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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We did and TRUELY wish we did not. They dated 1.5 years. He just broke up with her 2 days before Valentines Day. He is leaving to go to college in California and she is beyond devastated. She is screaming and crying. She starts therapy next week. They still remain "Best Friends" which does NO GOOD! Yes they slept together. We like the boy a lot. However, the age difference is huge and he is moving on. He explained it and she is in denial. Yes they will go to Prom and such.....but her heart is broken.[/quote]

I don't think this kind of behavior on both sides has anything to do with age. Her hypothetical same-age boyfriend could have broken it off because his family was moving to California, because he wanted to start dating her best friend, because it wasn't working for him any more, or for a million other reasons. I think your bigger issue here is not whether you could have prevented this in hindsight by forbidding her from dating someone two years older but how you help her learn from this experience and build resilience, which it sounds like she's lacking. If I were to forbid anything, it would be going to prom with him. She deserves better than to wallow in that masochistic experience, and I don't see how she could possibly enjoy it except as fuel for drama.[/quote]

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